What I Wish I Knew from the Start

By Scott O’Malley

March 5, 2021


Back in 2007, Twelve Stones (TS) took a chance on an eager but under qualified counselor when they hired me. While I had a lot of training (two-thirds of my master’s degree completed; many counseling conferences, many counseling books read), I did not have a lot of seat time. I probably had less than 100 hours of counseling experience at that time. In other words, I still had a ton to learn. Many years later, here are just a few of the things I wish I knew from the start of counseling others. I pray that these comments will be helpful for the people you serve.


1. The importance of life-stories.

We spend about three hours per person listening before we begin offering counsel. While every situati